Recently I celebrated my 29th birth
anniversary. Often, cursed and even blamed for over thinking, I live with firm
belief in what I do. Some beliefs behave like rubber bands while some remain
rigid. Here, I wish to quote some 29 realizations I had over past few
years:
1. The time is always now. For the good; for the bad; to make or to break it's now. People use the word patience, but I feel it is subjective. Applies only to cure wounds, make some peace or works well with projects. Hanging things seem like a burden. Indecisiveness is choking. If you don't give time to your efforts to mend relations or work now you will end up repenting.
2. People join and leave at their convenience and I guess it's perfectly fine. One must never carry the guests from a party home with them. Our lives shouldn't be an avenue to temporary people to comment upon. There is an identifiable difference between the temporary and the fixed. Realize and witness your butterfly friends, enjoy their presence. Don't cultivate parasites!
3. Those who love or value you always make time for you. Somehow or the other they will reach out to you, now or then. There should be no reason to miss or complain. Nobody came with us to stay with us, so let people pass. In fact, I believe even reunions and getting back doesn't fill up the real gap.
4. Family is the only constant in the long run called life, rest all are variables. Finances vary, friends vary, and jobs vary. However, priorities keep changing. Family is the roots no matter they give you sorrow or happiness, they give you values or ill-treatment. You can choose everything but not family.
5. You might be good to others in all situations but this doesn't guarantee that others will behave the same way.
6. We might lose touch with knowledge, but it never leaves us. Dust accumulates but new beginnings are difficult due to restrain and resistance but life is what it is out of the comfort zone.
7. Lethargy is our biggest enemy. One really needs a healthy body and environment. The role of exercise and plants can never be undermined. They are necessary, relevant and refreshing. In fact I can say growing plants sowed as seeds is nature's exercise and moving muscles is ours.
8. It really takes guts and the power to tolerate decibels of emotional pain during a break up or one sided love. However, the entire episode is self imposed, i.e. we impose love on our mental health by liking someone. Count their flaws and mistakes, you will get distanced automatically. Analyze their imperfections! It works wonders.
9. It is never wrong to talk to
a psychologist. One must always, talk to someone because the fast pace of life
has left us panting and craving for someone who can just listen. However,
popping in pills to solve depression should be a well thought over decision.
Our brain needs outlets, tears need shedding. Drinks, alcohol, weed; smoke is
all abuse to the body not relief.
10. Most of us crave for
attention, approvals and appreciation. We are all hidden artists. Even an
investment banker knows that he will be valued for an advice that works well
even in the presence of uncertainty. Models crave attention and designers crave
appreciation. We all have hunger for these three at some or the other level.
11. We are taught what they
want us to learn not what we want to learn. When we want to know answers to our
questions or vague questions, research begins. Real learning is research not
what is given to us, as they want. Systems will make us learn to be better
calculators, better analysts or maybe better forecasters who will work for
them under the rules laid by them.
12. Failures are never big
enough to make us feel small. Failures happen and go. We must probably never
consider that our efforts go in vain. I have had a failed talk show, a failed
short movie, a book in fiction that failed during pilot work, failed designs on
Photoshop, failed poems, failed write-ups. Not everything succeeds.
13. Lot of people attach
to you when you are famous, rich or successful but the bunch really dries out
when you reach the opposite side of the coin. People, my fingers fall
short to count; will leave and estrange you when their motives are fulfilled or
you are no more materially well off. Financial wellness or wealth is something
that comes and goes. Nothing is permanent. People change with time and
priorities are dynamic.
14. Not everyone has the same
values as we do. Some just mimic to show that they have the same
values but that's not the case. Value systems change and these changes can't
and shouldn't be judged. Wrong things sometimes appear simpler, right ones
appear tough.
15. It is simpler to judge
people and divide them on the basis of religion, region and what not but it
takes years of hard work to accept them as they are. There are sections such as
LGBT and transgender craving for their rights and acceptance; but people will
continue to feel and display shallowness against them. Wonder why your body or
its functions should be a problem!
16. I have had a very dear
friend no less than a brother with fall outs in between, gaps and silences.
Sometimes, I miss the equation but what's the use of even cherishing the past.
There are numerous people whom I once cherished but no longer share the equation.
But, every time I come back with an ache and a burden where did I go wrong. I
am scared to make efforts though I want to but the certain failure stops me. I
would hate being passive or forgetful because I cannot act that way, that is
not me.
17. Pollution isn't temporary, it is here
to stay and increase. Forestation is the thing we need. We firmly need to shut
down polluting enterprises and shift from fashionable, trendy chemical products
to easily available natural substitutes. Plastic, at personal level, needs to be done away with. If fashion and trend has to come up, it should be
fashionable to quit plastics. Why is it difficult to carry your own bags?
Rather than paying the companies for plastic bags, carry your own paper or
jute. Our solution is in our hands
18. People may by-pass us in success, fame, money, achievements, and foreign trips and so on. There
is frankly nothing to be jealous or feeling small about. We only need to take
inspiration and keep ourselves motivated. When our goals are different, how
can the achievements be same? When journeys, efforts, inputs and fate are
different then outputs can’t be same.
19. Social media remotely contributes to
productivity. It mostly creates clutter and mess. In fact it reduces efficiency
as it puts us into the practice of garnering appreciation from others rather
than enjoying actual lives. This is the prime reason the elder generation wants
to avoid social media. Whatsapp is an unnecessary parasite.
20. In the worst situations, we must think
hopefully, drawing energy from the beautiful parts of the past and affirming
that life will be beautiful. It makes survival and struggle easier. Losing on
assets such as money, business, profits, respect, home might happen in life but
one can always try and get back and what helps best is hope because is it the
same powerful emotion that we invest in prayer, God, future and ourselves which
keeps us alive.
21. Few people might/will not appreciate your work and efforts. Ignore them, we can’t please
everyone and we shouldn't even try to because it is not meaningful. Life is not
to please everyone. Sarcastic, sassy aunties and uncles were born to find flaws in your life but all they need to be asked is their
life perfect? Our imperfections and decisions are our own; nobody has to do anything
to do with them.
22. A class called home breakers exist that appear as sweet talkers who find flaws, plant
confusions, misunderstanding and hatred. Watch out for them and evade them. The
best way to do it is be on the face. Don't let people dial wrong numbers in
your name and in other's names. Dispose the shit like you do from your body,
before it stinks within.
23. People are already doing and trying their best. Broken people may seem contagious but repairing
them though seems a task, makes them better humans and you a learner of human
emotions. Being someone's listener, mentor or guide is being a savior. With the
widest span of anxiety, stress and depression, we can become supports to people
before they resort to addictions, drugs or attempt suicide.
24. Suicide is the worst kind of solution
to any problem. In fact, acceptance of the problem is the first step. Then, adjustment and lastly what comes is finding the solution. Focus should be on
the solution rather than the problem which is actually a maze in itself. When
you invest your energy in finding solutions, solutions will quickly appear.
25. Electronics are the necessary evil that we have to coexist with. Earlier, humans were to be coexisted with. Technology is like a fast paced snake that you have to keep in your pocket or on your wrist otherwise you would be called a dinosaur.
26. Mountains, jungles, rivers, seas, oceans don't need us or our garbage. They have allotted us place to live, who are we to do that to them? I dislike and shall continue hating conversion of moving beings into dead bodies and consumed. I hate the sight of someone's bone in another's hand. It seems like we are about to become Tantrikas with such stuff.
27. No amount of money can compensate love. Numerous examples from all industries are available where people earn heavily, become famous, establish celebrity status suffer from loneliness, fraud and what not. What is the use of the money that puts your happiness to danger?
28. Some people expire, leave us lamenting or missing them but what really needs to be done is learning from their mistakes and following the learning that they shared with you. Knowledge and experience is one's real ancestral property.
29. Life has and will go on till it finds a meaning because it is not politics. Politics is a filthy dirty game of making people believe that you will invest your time and money (while the money is theirs') for their welfare, without living up to expectations. No life exists without a meaning.
I don't know how much I am right or wrong. These are some things I just feel and experience.
