Life is all about getting introduced to people, building relationships, experiencing behavior spending time and ultimately loosing them at some point in life or say even at its end. In simple words life's a journey from introduction to memories whether sweet or bitter. It includes meeting random people from which we select 'friends' and 'foes'. Personally, at some point in life i was an absolute introvert with few friends (that were countable) and few with whom i interacted. Now since I have started to talk about friends I wish to express my views of what i presumed about friendship when i was growing.
Friendships is the name of absolute state of trust and knowing another person where you can depend upon a person for almost everything and performing the same conduct from our side. It is respect for someone when you pull legs in private but if a third entity talks ill you are ready to break its teeth. It is what existed between Lord Krishna and Sudama {impossible in this age}. I had seen how my maternal uncle's friends always stayed united and what group cohesion meant. I had seen them stand by each other in odds and evens; helping in sorrows and dancing whole-heartedly in joys.
I myself made a lot of friends in life but then at some point of time i realized that maybe I wasn't worth it or maybe the definition wasn't getting fulfilled not that i expected too much but maybe i was getting cold or incomplete responses. In school life i remember my seniors always said that i was innocent and a quiet chap and in one of my parent teacher meetings even a class teacher told my parents that i didn't socialize. Though i opened myself to the world but in a very limited space; i met new people but the definition never got fulfilled. i felt there wasn't any harm in going out of my way to help out others but this was taken in a very negative sense by most of the people while some respected it. masses termed me a fool for it but i never bothered.
i always had a question in mind that who is a true friend and what is a true friend? i couldn't seek an answer and gave up on the idea. at some point Mr. R a friend of mine taught me a policy "I have no best friends except for one and thats is me" to which i ultimately agreed for the unending trial and resulting failure were difficult to digest. I still remember filling slam books till grade 6th with my biggest assets and best friends as my mom and nanaji as my nanaji pampered me so much that nobody could compete his excellence. slowly as i grew things changed for they assumed that i am grown enough to tackle myself. few years back i found a best friend in my Grandmother "Mrs. Shakuntala Jain -Mummyji" for she was an angel to whom i could spell out my whole world, my entire life without hiding anything. she was an ultimate well wisher and supporter who motivated the cook. the artist, the singer, the actor in me that every atom that constituted my body got recharged to show excellence. when i lost her i went nearly mad for she wasn't just a granny but an experienced friend, supported, well wisher, motivator, guide, philosopher and most importantly my best friend.
its very true that we realize the worth of certain people in life after loosing them and so did I. Fate is a phenomena that affects life and changes along with fate are inevitable. Suddenly i was rewarded with a definitional friend who was an acquaintance for three years who made efforts to get me out of the depression of loosing her. Good things are first left unnoticed i believe. his extra edged efforts succeeded as i made for others in my early childhood. i certainly believed that my prayers have been answered and was content.But things related to the present are directly or indirectly related to the future. today i know that there are a few people in this world for whom i can do almost everything and frankly don't expect anything from them. i no think the concept of building a strong wall around myself is a great activity as it tells me who is worth being a friend or has made an effort to have me as a friend.
in life everybody needs a dumping bag; a person who knows us and likes us as we are; whom we can entirely trust. this is what i think we all search somewhere or the other. this is the main pursuit that includes meeting failure and winning friends. i would like to end this thought by saying i'd be really thankful to God or the Almighty when i succeed in finding and maintaining the diamond called a FRIEND.
P.S. no offence to my friends
